Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Winter in South Korea (Day Four)

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Spent the fourth day in South Korea wandering downtown Seoul which was so windy, the temperature was around 2 degrees celsius and even lower at night, around -4 degrees celsius... But I could not enjoy the walk more. 

1. National Folk Museum of Korea, admission fee: Free!

Visited National Folk Museum of Korea before hitting Gyeongbokgung Palace really early in the morning and felt glad about it. If only we went a little late it would be hard to enjoy the museum, since it would be so crowded. So, tips number one, visit this place early in the morning!  I did not have a chance to visit another museum or gallery in Seoul so clearly I can not compare it with another museum or gallery, but if you asked me was it worth it? I would say, yes it was!

Just like in another museum or gallery, spare minimum 2 hours of your time, because where is the fun in rushing in a museum? It is always best spent in a slow enjoyable pace while let our mind exploring. This museum presents artifacts that were used by Korean in their daily lives in the past. We can find Korean traditional's beliefs and their domestic & agricultural lifestyles. 

What I love the most is their ethical education and their range of traditional healing. At joseon era, people study about ethical education, setting a high moral standards about basic human relations. Women acquired information and knowledge by exchanging correspondence and reading books which have been translated into Korean, how cool is that? At that time! 

It was good visiting this museum before wandering around Gyeongbokgung Palace, learning people who lived inside it, first, so I can enjoy the palace more. 

2. Gyeongbokgung Palace, admission fee: 3,000 won for adults.

Dress (Lookboutique), Thermal Tights(Marks and Spencer), Coat (Zara), 
Scarf (H&M), Boots (Marks and Spencer)

National Museum of Korea is still within the same area with Gyeongbokgung Palace. There is a tour provided here but too bad I did not take it because I have a quite limited time. But, if you have the time I think this Palace is best enjoyed within a tour, therefore we could not only enjoy its architecture but the stories behind it also. 

At my first picture above, can you see it eventhough it was covered with fogs? Modern buildings behind the Palace's gate? I do love this contradictory occurence, a traditional palace in between hectic and busy modern buildings. Somehow I feel like going back and forth through a time machine. 

I guess this is how we have to live, no? With our feets rooted to the ground, remembering how we can be here enjoying our modern life, remembering how this will not happen without the greatness of our ancestors, thus we are always triggered to do the best we could so we can make sure whatever the hard work they did is not for nothing. 

3. Namsan Tower, admission fee: for observatory 10,000 won for adults.

At The Namsan Tower Observatory Deck (look at the panoramic view of Seoul behind me!)

After satisfied walking to every corner of Gyeongbokgung Palace and enjoying how beautiful it was while wondering how does it feel to be a princess inside the Palace, off I went to Namsan Tower. They say this is the highest point in Seoul, standing at 236.7 meters above sea level. 

Regardless of whether it is really the highest or not, I love spending time here for I can see a panoramic view of the crowded Seoul from its observatory deck. Just wondering, where might be my hotel is or what have the people in the building down there that I saw been doing for quite some time. And then I wrote letter while enjoying the view and listened to Stevie Wonder's overjoyed, letters for my man and my loved ones, and sent the postcard from a post office box available there. I felt complete. If you have the time and love sending postacards, this is a must to do thing!

Speaking about love locks, I put no lock there. Because, you may say I am a disbeliever in so many things, include this. I do not believe making a lock as a symbol of love, because love should not tie you up it should be liberating, no?

Finished my day by walking toward Samcheong Dong. Here we could find cool cafes and shops in hanok houses, makes it so perfect for a mix of tradiotional and modern feels. I came here a little late in a winter night, so most of the cafes and shops already closed. So, instead of staying at a cafe here like my plan, I just walked and walked. But I do loveee its athmosphere and promise to come here again when I have time for a sip of tea in the middle of this beautiful street.

Tips: come here at morning until afternoon and trying one of the cafes here, is a must!

See you at my last post of my last day in Seoul!

Thursday, September 7, 2017

What Day Was It?

In the mood of: Alicia Florrick

Show me a picture
I want to see the face of the woman
Who made you forget the one you had at home
What day was it and
What excuse did you feed me
I used to thank the universe
For bringing you to me
Did you enter her right as
I asked the almighty
To grant you all you wanted
Did you find it in her
Did you come crawling out of her
With what you couldn't in me

(Rupi Kaur)

Saturday, August 26, 2017

A Decade

Speaking about relationship, I've never been a fan of it. There is this one history of mine which makes me thinking like Summer Finn from 500 Days of Summer, I am always afraid when it comes to interpersonal relationship. I am afraid of the future of the relationship, will it lasts long? I am afraid of the state of mind of this other person, will they change someday? I am afraid of their reliability on trust issues, it is hard for me to fully trust on another person. 

So, I always think thousand before speaking about the detail of my relationship with my man. I try to make most of our story private, because I do not have the confidence that everything I hold dear now will always be okay and able to last long. Initially, I did not even dare to say how long exactly we have been together...

But how come with such condition we are able to stay together this whole decade?


Does it really exist?

I may be afraid of the form of relationship. But maybe I do not afraid of love. I never hesitate to care about someone I hold dear. I never hesitate to do everything in my power to support them. This time, I would like to take a moment to overcome my fear, I will try to share a little detail of us, to put a little confidence in this relationship, that it will be able to last long. 

10 years, have I ain't bored? Never once, clearly we are in a long distance relationship, starting the 8th year on long distance now so we even rarely meet! But mostly, because we work our best in this relationship, I suppose. Love is a verb so there has to be an effort. In everything. Learn one or two things every now and then, share a new perspective, is a common thing for both of us. A little example; I am a dentist yet I love to read business or management matters once or twice thus I can understand a little about his world. He works in corporation but once or twice he asked me about the medical/health issues. We are willing to learn each other and always be the best version of ourselves.

Have we never fight? We have. I do not know, maybe it's just because of the way our minds work, but when we fight, mostly both of us never been so attached to each of our emotions. We talked everything through, calculate the cause of the problem, the problem itself, and how to solve it. We fought a good fight and win it. Mostly, we simplify matters so it is always less drama. 

What makes him stand out in my eyes? First, he is open minded I feel like I could share even my most peculiar ideas and dreams with him. Second, he is always willing to be better and to not stay in the comfort zone. What is the point of a relationship if it is only for settling down? It has to be able to empower each other, no? For I heard that two is stronger than one. Third, I am complicated, really, I am stubborn and opinionated, I have my insecurities, I have trust issues, and I actually am not a family person, but he could bring his part and balance me on those matters. And a lot more...

How can we bear the long distance for 7 years? Independency. I always try not to depend on anyone other than my self and god. For me, he does not always have to be present, even at my important moment such as graduation or birthday or even when I have to be hospitalized, if it really is not possible. I do not like to get anxious over small things like that, I am okay if he is unpresent for I can spend the time with more people; friends and families. The art of letting go. I love it seeing him succeed, so if in order to get that, he has to travel thousand miles then go for it. That is the form of my love and support for him, not to tie him close to me, but to let him go, explore the world and its possibilities, and be the best version of himself. And I feel like he does the same for me too, we do not tie each other, both of us could really freely breathe. 

What is the hardest thing about the long distance? For me, the longing, of course!

Last August 17th was our 10th year together. A decade it is. And no matter how sometimes I still do not have the confidence, I really wish us another decades to come :)